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In whatever way intimidation comes, anyone can overcome it. In this article, you’ll get to know how to deal with intimidation using tactics.
This sad experience of intimidation happens in our society anytime, anywhere, and anyhow. But irrespective of this, humans give room for it too.
To feel intimidated by someone or occurrences is something that people don’t like to experience. The word Intimidate means to frighten or threaten someone so that they will do what you want.
However, to make this article correspond with why it was written, let’s see intimidation as an uncomfortable instance of feeling frightened and not confident in a particular situation.
When someone is intimidated by you, it means you made the person feel uncomfortable, threatened, or less confident by your presence or actions.
But as you can see, you’re not to be blamed when the person is frightened by your mare presence – that’s on the person’s side.
Unless you oppress, display arrogance in your top position, or bully as well – then yes – that person is being intimidated by you.
But the truth here is this: everyone has a different level of self-esteem. Now, that is the bone of contention here. Some people have low self-esteem, while others have high self-esteem.
Developing self-esteem and tactics to deal with intimidation
It’s not difficult to tell if one has high self-esteem or low self-esteem, it all depends on how they carry themselves. Do they seem not to care and walk with their shoulders high? Or do they beat themselves up over every little thing?
This is exactly what determines whether a person has low self-esteem or high self-esteem. Whatever the level of self-esteem though, it all depends on how the person develops it.
To develop self-esteem though, you have to start with how you groom yourself and how you prepare yourself. These are the basics though to leverage your self-esteem.
Sure, intimidation is never something to be proud of, especially when you are at the receiving end of it.
Along the way in this article, you will get to know how you sometimes let intimidation get to you without realizing it.
At least, starting with knowing how you let intimidation get to you will be the first step to building your self-esteem and knowing how to utilize the tactics to deal with it.
Tactics on how to deal with intimidation
To give you an honest answer on this, you will need to grow your level of self-esteem with proper grooming and preparations.
Why do you have to grow your self-esteem with proper grooming and preparations to overcome intimidation? That is because when you groom and prepare yourself, your confidence grows.
This is especially true, as people tend to see well-groomed and prepared people as organized people who take care of themselves.
When they see this in you, they return it with respect to what they perceive about you and give you your space and respect.
Aside from that, if you can’t show up looking well-groomed, prepared, and organized, you will be hurting your self-esteem, by yourself.
Unless you have got it super in-built (which is rare) else, it is better to start building it. If you don’t, you can’t fake it.
However, intimidating people and those into intimidating others can see those loopholes, then since you don’t have it, so they take advantage.
Incase you see no reason to step it up still, here’s a surprise for you:
When you don’t keep up with a good game of grooming and preparations, your self-esteem will be low, and the oppressors and bullies will sense it, and you know what? They will utilize it.
They will attack and fist on you with claws
To what extent can intimidation be perceived?
No judging on this, but seemingly, those in top-class positions may seem to dominate and as a result, intimidate the opposites.
Well, maybe they appear tough, act tough, seem rude, bullies, or seem pompous at their top-class positions. These alone are enough to intimidate a low self-esteemed person.
It’s common to feel sad feeling this way but it’s fine. At least, you know what puts you at the edge of your seat. Mind you that some don’t know how they find themselves at the edge of their seats.
As long as you feel nervous, frightened or worried, the situation or person you find yourself with is intimidating you.
The unlawful intimidation
Some countries with strict human rights and laws see intimidation as a crime though, depending on the extent to which it affects the victim.
So, unlawful intimidation is an example of what some countries take seriously, such as tampering with people’s rights or heavy attacks.
In such countries, you can sue the offender with rightful claims that it was an unlawful intimidation.
However, intimidation in form of harassment may not be perceived as unlawful intimidation.
Different from being intimidated by someone unlawfully though, the other forms of it, like harassment, aren’t seen as unlawful.
If at all you are in the presence of a person or situation, it only takes some minutes for you to discover and keep your cool.
However, if it exceeds minutes, hours, days, and weeks and you still can’t keep you cool, then you know you are dealing with an intimidating situation or person.
But in most cases, it’s probably as a result of one not knowing how to overcome or using the right tactics on how to deal with intimidation.
Times you let intimidation get to you
Here are times you probably let intimation get to you. Knowing these will help you more in using the tactics on how to deal with intimidation.
Hopefully, you will find one or two places where you fall in and make corrections from it.
1. Unprepared to interviews
Unless you have experienced it, you may not understand the tension that could come with it.
This is true when you have not prepared yourself for it, especially with the kind of interview or interviewer you will be facing.
No doubt, some interviewers may make it easy for you, while others will make it tough for you. Some may even make it seem like they got some personal issues with you.
However, whatever the situation may be, just keep your cool and make sure you go in there fully prepared. You will need to know how to get ready for interviews.
You could start by researching the company, what the company is all about, and get a good knowledge of the position the company is planning to give you.
Also, gather every vital information, ideas, and materials you will need for the interview. By doing that, you are giving your confidence level a boost.
Thereby, shaking off any sort of intimidation and feeling very confident to do very well at the interview, no matter who it is that will interview you.
By mastering preparation, it will help you get organized and composed. Also, you will barely make mistakes as a result and come out with great results.
2. Poorly groomed when meeting up
Before going further, do you know how to groom yourself? That means proper grooming. That’s the model sort of grooming.
So, you vibed well with someone so you decide to fix a date? Alright, that’s cool, but before you go, do you know your class and where you stand?
If you do, how about hers or his? Two things are involved here: it’s either you know or you don’t know.
Now, if you know and you still decide to go poorly groomed, you are looking for trouble and you don’t want that, as you are not sure of the person’s character.
Even though you are sure you know, you would want to ensure you look good as possible before stepping out from the door.
When you see the person and you don’t look all cool, you are going to feel intimidated already, especially when the person starts acting up.
Also, intimidation will tend to jump in at any time you feel you did something wrong, even when you didn’t.
To shake off intimidation and be at your very best, you had wanted to ensure you look your best and dress as cool as you can.
But it’s not a must to look like Jay-Z or Beyonce, just look presentable and your confidence will be high.
3. Poorly dressed to occasions
Once in a while, we are all forced to find ourselves attending one occasion or the other. Take note that you have no idea of who you could meet there.
The reason you shouldn’t go to occasions poorly groomed is that you meet different sorts of people there. You would come across someone you may feel kind of intimidated by.
It’s important to know that looking good doesn’t just boost your confidence and self-esteem, it also makes people give you a subtle hint of respect. On occasions, different kinds and classes of people will be gathered for it.
How about preparing ahead of the occasion? Let the clothes you want to wear match the occasion. Carry yourself the right way.
Take note of what to say and how to compose yourself, then you know you have built a mental preparation to match with your physical presence.
The occasion is what you make out of it, depending on how you prepared for it. If it looks like you came as a winner, you’ll feel like a winner throughout.
4. Unprepared to examinations
There is nothing as bad as going into the examination hall and having nothing to put down. Moreover, preparing for exams is one way to ensure that you become a high achiever in life.
What were you thinking? To go in there and invoke some magic? Sadly, it doesn’t work that way. You experienced a lack of idea and confidence to go with because you weren’t prepared for it.
It’s safe to say that the number one reason you did not do well was because of the fear of getting into the examination.
There you have several students who are smarter and more intelligent than you. All of these are beginning to put fear in you. You begin to feel like, “why do my fellow students intimidate me by the way?”
Sadly, it was caused as a result of not letting your confidence work for you, by being very prepared for the examination. Do all the necessary to be prepared, and you will grow your confidence ten times higher. It is very important for success.
Now, there you have it. Before we call it a day, here are more hints on how to deal with intimidation:
1. Be prepared
One of the major keys to shaking off intimidation is preparation. Being prepared at anything is due to give you a boost in confidence.
One thing some people fail to know is that confidence and self-esteem go hand-in-hand. Good preparation will also help to control the feeling of anxiety.
Confidence is needed for self-esteem to be active. So, your high self-esteem depends on how far you have built your confidence.
2. Proper understanding
With proper understanding, you get to know about the kind of person or situation you are dealing with. You control how certain people intimidate you.
When you have a good understanding of people, you begin to lay tactics on how to deal with intimidation based on the person’s character.
Also, it helps you to understand who you are, know your worth, and reject any desperation. If you can reject desperation into doing what’s not right, you stand against going the extra mile in doing what you would not want to do.
Therefore, resisting the fear that a person or situation may be trying to push you into.
Anyone can give way to intimidation, especially when the person has failed to build his or her confidence.
However, to build that confidence and self-esteem, it starts with proper grooming and mastering good preparations.
Make sure to put effort into giving people the impression that you are confident in yourself, and you respect yourself, as well as others by how you groom and organize yourself.
This way, they will learn to know that you know your stuff, and knowing you won’t tolerate being pushed around. People respect these sorts of things in someone, and they will give you your space.Let us connect: